Written in the body
01 June 2011 10:15 AM Categories: Writing prompts | Friends
This man, the first familiarity, melts away and suddenly I am kissing my body double. His legs match the length of mine. His feet are tanned and small. Our similarities, the smallness of our combined frames, surprises me. I mourn the body who went before. It is the last time I let the physicality of someone, their solidity, the feel of their lips, the way their legs intertwine with mine, become an object of attachment.
When my body double leaves me, I don't mourn the loss of his corporeality. I mourn the loss of tenuous connection, the closeness of two damaged souls meeting periodically to solve the problem of the human need for touch. And when the next man comes along, his feet like miniature anvils, his body broad and short, I let the concept of physical attachment go completely. I don't record the feeling of him against me, the pressure of his hand in mine. It simply doesn't matter anymore. All that remains are the labels. After that marriage ends, I often catch myself almost calling the new man by the old one's name. A matter of habit.
This was the sloughing off of connection and association. We are animals of contact, of the burrowing together under covers, the familiarity of the loved one’s body, of their smell and the way their chest rises and falls, the cadence of their walk. I remember the first man best and after that let go of the musk, of the tracing of thighs and knees, of the texture of hair between fingers. I simply do not want to get too attached. The pain of the inevitable break is too much.
But to realize it! There I am in a fast car looking down at his feet, here I am on bright blue wall-to-wall and he is about to kiss me, here we are together at a country-western bar, talking talking talking. And here he is, boyfriend #4, husband #2, with me for over thirteen years now, the long history, the beauty of context. He knew Kevin, my mother’s cruel boyfriend. He met my grandfather, dead since Valentine’s Day 2002. He’s known my animals. He’s the father of my child. Our history goes on and I know the feel of his hand in mine, have cried in his arms, a sensation I have deliberately and slowly forgotten.
I need to remember again.
From the prompt "The key." But this had nothing to do with the prompt. I've been thinking about this bodily attachment, how detached I am from it now and why that happened. When I was up at 1:30 this morning, one of the images going through mind was of D's feet, his foot on the gas pedal, and how strange it was when I started dating J, how the differences between them were so obvious and palpable and how I missed what had come before. That was the last time I mourned someone's physical presence, more of my self-protection system doing its job overzealously.
I'm posting every messy Round Robin prompt, a prompt a day until the RR ends. I rewrote this one entirely, though I'm having a hard time taking it further. They've upped the dosage of the little purple pills (because that's how it works) and my thoughts are hard to hold on to this morning.
Image by William Degen.
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