I serve in this fashion

I trace an outline of my daughter’s hand on
thin tissue paper. The paper is pink as
cotton candy and her hand is limp. She is
asleep.
I’ve spent the last weekend tracing her limbs
and torso while she sleeps, working my way up
to her delicate head and wispy hair. I just
want to catch an idea of that hair, a tendril
here, a mass of frizz there. In her sleep her
toes flex like a dancer en
pointe. I follow the stretch of
the arch of her foot, sweep up the ball to
the tip of her big toe. Elizabeth stirs and
tenses as the felt-tipped marker grazes her
flesh, but I am stalwart and stay the course,
capture the foot for posterity’s sake.
Elizabeth is three years old, red-haired and
long of limb. Her knees are like mine were
when I was her age, stretched and knobby all
at once, awkward joints connecting leg bones.
I can already see how her hips will jut out
at thirteen, will buffer themselves in fat
and muscle. Buying pants will become almost
impossible for her, will become a source of
frustration, and she will start to wear
slimming flat-front trousers with wide legs
no matter the going fashion. Her skinny legs
will protrude from an ample rump, those
now-slight hips will grow to temporarily
house the wide skulls of ten-and-a-half pound
babies. She will slap the first man who
remarks on her child-bearing hips and then
she will marry him and bear two children in
three years.
They will exhaust themselves with fights over
money and discipline. When she discovers that
he's been sneaking out to Bible study
meetings and is on the road to becoming born
again, Elizabeth will leave him. I'll take
the family in, my 26-year-old daughter and
her two preschooler boys, will put aside my
plans to redo the upstairs in preparation to
sell the place. She'll be practically
unemployable, her only experience being
reproducing and windexing the glass off the
windows, running a vacuum cleaner across the
floor so thoroughly that you could eat off of
it. It will be as though she were a teenager
again, the petty little fights over who left
what dish in the sink without washing it, her
stealing my cigarettes and popping diet pills
so she can stay up all night. I will wonder
what happened to my golden years, my "me"
time. She'll get an earful every night.
Eventually she will go back to nursing
school, will find a new place to live and get
a job. One of the night-shift orderlies, an
atheist, rational and compelling, will seduce
her with stories from his service in the
Persian Gulf. He'll move in after their third
date and will start whipping that fatherless
household into shape. The boys, teenagers by
this time, will be desperate to escape the
two of them, sick of the discussions of Ayn
Rand and the tyranny of other people's gods.
There are other things that will keep them
away, the sounds that leak from the too-thin
walls of the tract house, the atheist's cries
in the middle of the night followed by the
low dove-coos of their mother soothing him.
They will visit me for dinner almost every
night and I'll serve them roast beef and
potatoes, spaghetti and meatballs, fish
sticks and french fries. Sometimes one of the
boys will sleep on the pull-out couch, his
brother in a sleeping bag on the floor.
But for now Elizabeth is a little girl with
chubby feet and dimpled elbows. Her neck is
thick, strong muscles leading to an
unremarkable chin that dips out blandly from
under her lower lip. Her dad and I are still
debating about whose nose she will have. All
children have cute button noses. It takes the
hormones and stretching of adolescence to
reveal the nose’s true nature.
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